Message from The Dragonfly

Here’s something I needed to share. If the message does not resonate, don’t let that stop you from watching the video.  I will be writing again soon.  In the meantime I wish you all love, happiness, and peace.

http://www.greatwesternpublishing.org/messages-from-the-dragonfly-by-john-cali/

P.S. For whatever reason this was not posted on my Facebook page.  Apologies to those who have already received it.

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You Can Do This!

While in the midst of a pain crisis, I was fortunate to have a wonderful doctor introduce me to an effective method of self-help.  It reduces both stress and pain.  I was in dire condition on a Friday night when she walked me through the process over the phone.  What a blessing!  I downloaded the free booklet and have done it by myself twice since then.   This is a powerful energetic technique so, as my doctor advised, be sure to drink plenty of water on the days that you use this method.

 TATLife, the home of the Tapas Acupressure Technique

Thought for today:  “Healing doesn’t mean that the damage never existed.  It means that the damage no longer controls our lives.”          — Nikol Rivas and Dalila Carbonell of Inspiration Point.

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Struggle

A good friend posted the art and words below on Facebook from the site “Rivers In the Ocean.”   May they  comfort you as they did me.

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“The fact that you are struggling doesn’t make you a burden.  It doesn’t make you unlovable or undesirable or undeserving of care.  It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy.  It makes you human.  Everyone struggles.  Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we fall apart.  During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay.  No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time.  Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult.  And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad.  But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being.  The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.  You can be difficult and still be cared for.  You can be less than perfect, and till be deserving of compassion and kindness.”               — Daniell Koepke

Art © Helena Wiezbicki

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Why Am I Here? II

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Why Am I Here?

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For the past couple of years I have awakened each morning with stomach churning anxiety.  There are likely many reasons why this happens but I figured out one of them.  I feel that there is no reason for my being on this planet anymore.

Don’t worry, I’m not wanting to end my life.  But at the same time I am not happy with what I am doing/not doing.

I know that I did a very good job in my career as a mother but my children are adults and one has a child of her own.  So what’s the point of my existence at this time when I’m contributing nothing to better my community and beyond?

It’s true that I have serious physical limitations in the moment and have had for several years.  Still it seems that I could be doing something.  There are countless stories of people with pretty severe handicaps who are doing great things.  Shouldn’t I be as well?

Over the past ten years or so I have read many authors and listened to some very wise people regarding this issue.  All of them, and I do mean All,  have said that we are each contributing by our very existence.  Hmmmm, maybe so but this is not exactly filling the void right now.

I have always been a doer.  I cannot remember being otherwise.  As I child I set the dinner table, washed dishes, scrubbed floors, cleaned bathrooms, bathed the dog, etc., etc..  Though these were assigned chores, like them or not, they set up a pattern with which I felt comfortable.  When I was no longer forced to do such jobs, I wanted to contribute, to help, to be of service in whatever way I could no matter the size or type of work.

As a young student I enjoyed staying late to wash the blackboard and to line up the desks in preparation for the next morning.  Later, whenever there were picnics or parties, I always helped set up before and cleaned up afterward.

I volunteered in our children’s schools from pre-school until they graduated from high school.  I continued being a helper in many other situations until my body didn’t allow me to play that role any longer.

After a life time of doing for myself and others, I feel somehow unworthy.  My husband has had to take over most of what I consider my responsibilities like food shopping, dropping off the dry cleaning,  picking up prescriptions, emptying the dishwasher, even ironing my clothes.

Now, in addition to doing next to nothing, I feel like a burden as well. So what is the point of my being here at all?

After more research and some counseling along with frank conversations with my wonderful husband, I know now that I am in no way a burden.  (Sometimes we get so stuck inside our heads that we need the perspective of both professionals and those who know us well.)

Okay, that was a big relief  but what about my reason for being?

Well, I am happy to report that there are many  for each of us …  in fact, too many to be contained in this post.  I promise that we will explore this issue in the near future.

But a very big something needs to be addressed before we get to that … The Comparison Trap. Above I mentioned  that there are “countless stories of people with pretty severe handicaps who are doing great things. Shouldn’t I be as well?”

There it is.  I am comparing myself to others.  Gabrielle Bernstein writes, “When we compare ourselves to another, we get hooked into the belief that we’re better than or less than someone else.”  That sounds like judgement … certainly not my intention.

No doubt, like me,  you have fallen into the comparison mode a time or two … or fifty.  But we needn’t beat up on ourselves.  We do it because we are afraid … afraid that we are lacking in some way.  Such self-judgement is a trap that keeps us from discovering our real worth.

We need to realize that we do not know how others view their own lives. No matter their contributions and successes, we cannot see their doubts, challenges, and fears.

So, before we can discover our life’s purpose, we need to learn how to appreciate ourselves first … to stop the negative self-judgement.  How can we uncover what “work” fulfills us when we focus on what we are not doing or what we think we cannot do as well as someone else?

The next time you feel yourself slipping into the comparison trap, try this:

”Every time a self-critical thought comes to mind, I will forgive the Judge and follow this comment with words of praise, self-acceptance, and love.”        — Miguel Ruiz

And remember …

“You, yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  — The Buddha

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Why Am I Here?

phot[7] II

For the past couple of years I have awakened each morning with stomach churning anxiety.  There are likely many reasons why this happens but I figured out one of them.  I feel that there is no reason for my being on this planet anymore.

Don’t worry, I’m not wanting to end my life.  But at the same time I am not happy with what I am doing/not doing.

I know that I did a very good job in my career as a mother but my children are adults and one has a child of her own.  So what’s the point of my existence at this time when I’m contributing nothing to better my community and beyond?

It’s true that I have serious physical limitations in the moment and have had for several years.  Still it seems that I could be doing something.  There are countless stories of people with pretty severe handicaps who are doing great things.  Shouldn’t I be as well?

Over the past ten years or so I have read many authors and listened to some very wise people regarding this issue.  All of them, and I do mean All,  have said that we are each contributing by our very existence.  Hmmmm, maybe so but this is not exactly filling the void right now.

I have always been a doer.  I cannot remember being otherwise.  As I child I set the dinner table, washed dishes, scrubbed floors, cleaned bathrooms, bathed the dog, etc., etc..  Though these were assigned chores, like them or not, they set up a pattern with which I felt comfortable.  When I was no longer forced to do such jobs, I wanted to contribute, to help, to be of service in whatever way I could no matter the size or type of work.

As a young student I enjoyed staying late to wash the blackboard and to line up the desks in preparation for the next morning.  Later, whenever there were picnics or parties, I always helped set up before and cleaned up afterward.

I volunteered in our children’s schools from pre-school until they graduated from high school.  I continued being a helper in many other situations until my body didn’t allow me to play that role any longer.

After a life time of doing for myself and others, I feel somehow unworthy.  My husband has had to take over most of what I consider my responsibilities like food shopping, dropping off the dry cleaning,  picking up prescriptions, emptying the dishwasher, even ironing my clothes.

Now, in addition to doing next to nothing, I feel like a burden as well. So what is the point of my being here at all?

After more research and some counseling along with frank conversations with my wonderful husband, I know now that I am in no way a burden.  (Sometimes we get so stuck inside our heads that we need the perspective of both professionals and those who know us well.)

Okay, that was a big relief  but what about my reason for being?

Well, I am happy to report that there are many  for each of us …  in fact, too many to be contained in this post.  I promise that we will explore this issue in the near future.

But a very big something needs to be addressed before we get to that … The Comparison Trap. Above I mentioned  that there are “countless stories of people with pretty severe handicaps who are doing great things. Shouldn’t I be as well?”

There it is.  I am comparing myself to others.  Gabrielle Bernstein writes, “When we compare ourselves to another, we get hooked into the belief that we’re better than or less than someone else.”  That sounds like judgement … certainly not my intention.

No doubt, like me,  you have fallen into the comparison mode a time or two … or fifty.  But we needn’t beat up on ourselves.  We do it because we are afraid … afraid that we are lacking in some way.  Such self-judgement is a trap that keeps us from discovering our real worth.

We need to realize that we do not know how others view their own lives. No matter their contributions and successes, we cannot see their doubts, challenges, and fears.

So, before we can discover our life’s purpose, we need to learn how to appreciate ourselves first … to stop the negative self-judgement.  How can we uncover what “work” fulfills us when we focus on what we are not doing or what we think we cannot do as well as someone else?

The next time you feel yourself slipping into the comparison trap, try this:

”Every time a self-critical thought comes to mind, I will forgive the Judge and follow this comment with words of praise, self-acceptance, and love.”        — Miguel Ruiz

And remember …

“You, yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  — The Buddha

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Allow

For the last week or so I’ve been working on a new post … it’s taking longer than I expected to come together.  In the meantime here is a powerful message from the ever wise Cynthia Occelli.  I invite you to join me in following this simple exercise before you turn out the light this evening .  (Feel free to tailor it in whatever way feels comfortable.)

“Tonight, take the evening off.

Put the world back on its axis and let it turn without your assistance. It worked just fine before you arrived and it will carry on when you’ve moved on. You don’t have to stand at the ready.

Get quiet. Take long, even breaths (5-8 count inhales and exhales). Be here now.

When you’re fully present, begin to see each inhale as a pure white purifying light and each exhale as a surrendering to the power of Creation. Let it handle your every concern.

As the light removes the burdens you’ve been carrying, you can relax and be held.

You are a divine emanation, a vessel imbued with the Spirit of Life. Your highest calling is to honor this truth. When you lose your connection to this purpose, you are weakened. Outside forces, other people’s negative energy, and over-working deplete you and take you off track.

Retreat. Return to your center. Stay here and let the Infinite restore you. Turn within, again and again.

Nothing “out there” is greater than what you are inside. Rest.

When you’ve reached a deeply peaceful place, choose a word or phrase that represents this space for you. It will be your anchor, a technique that will (in time) help you jump the gap from frazzled to fortified, instantly.

For many years mine was: Love (Spirit/God) is right here, right now. I used it everywhere. Use yours.

Tonight, I rest in the temple of my Spirit. I am safe, loved, and restored.”

— from LIFE by Cynthia Occelli

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